Maid Of Honor

So your bestie is getting married and she asked you to be her maid of honor. Although you're delighted, you might be kind of in the dark as to what exactly your role is. What do you wear? What kind of bouquet to do you hold? What are your duties? Find out everything you need to know about being the bride's right hand girl so you can help make her big day spectacular.

Pre-Wedding Prep

Your duties don't start the day of the wedding. In fact, they start the very day the bride asks you to hold this title. Start off by offering to go with the bride to browse venues to hold the wedding. This can be quite stressful, so it's important to be there not only to give her your opinion, but just for emotional support. You should also assist her in picking out her invitations. Once the invitations are chosen and printed, make sure you're there to help address and send out the invites. Also, if there will be a seating arrangement at the reception, offer to help her put it all together as this can be a time-consuming and challenging task in itself.

Lend an eye to help the bride choose and order favors and decorations. Although it's ultimately her decision as to the colors and theme of her big day, she might need help narrowing down her options. Offer to do the ordering for her once she has chosen what she wants.

Tag along with the bride as she shops for her wedding dress. She might bring along her mother or the mother of the groom, but you should be there as well, even if it's just to tell her how beautiful she looks. Also, you'll need to assist her in picking out and ordering the bridesmaid dresses. Take on the responsibility of ensuring the dresses are ordered in a timely manner, taking into consideration time for alternations if necessary.

Plan and host a shower for the bride, as well as a bachelorette party. You can ask the other bridesmaid to lend a hand and help cover expenses, but ultimately it should be you, the maid of honor, doing the planning. She chose you to be her maid of honor for a reason?you know her best?so you'll likely have the best idea as to what she would or wouldn't like for these events.

You'll need to make yourself the leader of the other bridesmaids prior to the wedding day. Don't be too pushy, but let them know what their duties are, too. Keep them on their toes when it comes to fittings and attending certain wedding events. Make sure they have the right shoes purchased and are on schedule with any alterations that might need to be done.

Wedding Day Duties

The big day is finally here and your duties today as maid of honor are more important than ever. Keep track of the bride on this day. Make sure she gets to the ceremony on time and that she has everything she needs. Help her with her makeup and getting into her dress. Be the liaison between the bride and groom in case they need to exchange messages or gifts with one another. Assist her in getting her veil on properly and fluff out her train, if necessary, so she's not tripping over it while walking down the aisle. Offer her emotional support just by standing next to her at the altar since she might have a bit of the jitters. Arrange her train and veil just as she gets to the alter to make sure they are in good shape. Hold the bride's bouquet during the ceremony and keep the groom's ring with you until it needs to be turned over to the bride during the ceremony.

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Once the ceremony is finished, your duties aren't over just because it's time for the reception party. At the reception, you'll need to give a toast or speech during dinner. If there is a gift box for money or gift cards, be sure to lock it up in a safe place after the bride and groom have shared their first dance. By this time, everyone should have put their gifts on the gift table or money into the box. Keep an eye on the bride during the reception to make sure her dress is in order. Assist the bride after the reception in changing and/or getting ready to go off on her honeymoon.

What's The Maid of Honor to Wear?

You're the maid of honor, which means you're not just another bridesmaid. Sure, all of the bridesmaids are special in some way to the bride, but you were given the top honor in the wedding party. She chose you because you mean a lot to her, so you must stand out among the others in the wedding party. This can be done in several ways. Wear a different colored dress than the other bridesmaids. If the wedding colors are black and pink and the bridesmaids are wearing pink, you wear black. If the bridesmaids are wearing long dresses, you can wear a shorter one. You can all wear the same color dress, but the maid of honor's can be a different style altogether. The maid of honor should also hold a bouquet that is slightly different than the other bridesmaids. It can be a bit bigger or of a different color. Anything will work, as long as it stands out among the rest. Ultimately, thought, the decisions as to what the maid of honor should wear must be left up to the bride.

Being chosen as the maid of honor is the bride's way of paying tribute to you and showing the value of your relationship. Uphold your duties on the day of and those leading up to the wedding to help make her day perfect.